Category Archives: Perspective on Life
Lessons from a Tinsmith
I have said it before and I will say it again: Self-help isn’t a bad thing and there’s nothing inherently wrong with it! Yet, for many people – including myself at various times in my life – the “problem” with self-help lies in our endless searching and never finding. We think the next course, the [...]
Funny Guru
I want a funny guru. I want to be laughing as I sit down to drink my first cup of coffee, as I sit down to meditate or contemplate. I at least want a smile on my face. I want someone who really gets human nature and isn’t afraid to share their own. I love [...]
Turning Ourselves Around
Disrupting the Ordinary can mean turning left when every cell in your body wants you to turn right. “No, no, no!” goes the cry. “You are going the wrong way.” But you know that turning right means turning back to comfort and familiarity; that warm blanket, worn out slippers, and possibly a nap. Not that [...]
The Darkness that Beckons
Ah, the darkness… It seems so real, so convincing that it is the truth; that it will never pass. My darkness has shown up in many ways over my 45 years on this planet. From the brutal grips of addiction when I was younger, to facing the uncertainty of life through my own illnesses and [...]
I Cannot Do It!!!! Well, Maybe I Can
My first introduction to public humiliation was in third grade. Already a shy, self-conscious little girl, I almost disappeared in my shell. It all began as I was reading out loud in class enthusiastically at first, but faltered at the point in the book where it said, “Chicago is known as the Windy City.” Plowing onward, [...]
What We Are Looking For is Doing the Looking… Sufi saying
You may have heard the story of how to “train” fleas. First you place some fleas in a jar and put the lid on. The fleas will begin to jump, repeatedly hitting the lid in their attempt to escape. After about twenty minutes, the fleas grow tired of hitting the jar lid. They have learned [...]
6 Principles to Stop Waiting
1. Start where you are: this means let go of thinking you should be anywhere other than where you are right now AND it means, start with a healthy relationship with yourself. I am not saying you should fall into the “Waiting for Jack” trap. However, it’s important to consider, the further out of alignment [...]
Expectations Are Pre-meditated Resentments
We have rules and guidelines for love. If you loved me you wouldn’t_____ (fill in the blank). Often these are unspoken rules that our partner knows nothing about but this doesn’t stop us from expecting that they should follow the rules. Often, the closer we are to someone, the higher our expectations are. “They should [...]
Expansion versus Contraction
Gosh I love the growth periods—the times when I feel invigorated, alive, excited, that is. However, part of growth is the contraction periods and I don’t enjoy that quite as much. Expansion is exciting, enlivening—the times of being creative, energized, full of ideas, bold, daring. During these times I feel my power and glory, I [...]
Shameless Self-Acceptance
The rallying cry goes, “When will we accept ourselves as we are?” We look around, but to whom are we speaking? We finally turn and face… ourselves. It starts with us. Yes, the messages are everywhere—magazines, billboards, movies and on television. We are shown what “perfection” is and how it leads to a happier, more [...]
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