1. Start where you are: this means let go of thinking you should be anywhere other than where you are right now AND it means, start with a healthy relationship with yourself. I am not saying you should fall into the “Waiting for Jack” trap. However, it’s important to consider, the further out of alignment with yourself that you are, the further away you are from finding the relationship you really want.
2. Allow yourself to want: you don’t have to settle AND you can drop the perfection nonsense. (You don’t have to drown in the bottomless pit of perfection). There is no such thing as perfection in a human—or we are perfect in our imperfections. The point is to find a balance. Have criteria, even make a list of what you want in the other person—but remember, be your list first.
3. You complete you: Be responsible for your own happiness. No one else will make you happy. You may experience happiness when you are with someone. But you are the one who is sourcing that experience. You are the one you have been waiting for!
4. Disrupt your ordinary. Be willing to jump for the $100 bill of life. Break free from your comfort zone. Allow yourself to take risks. You never know where that will take you.
5. Be committed. Nothing happens without commitment. Do you really want a relationship? Then do what it takes, deal with your stuff—all your reasons.
6. If you are going to leave, leave from love. This applies when you are in a relationship but also when you find you are not interested in someone. It doesn’t have to be a drama—you don’t have to diminish the other person. Consider that it may just not be a fit. (Of course some of you may have been in abusive relationships and I am not condoning violence.) So often when we break up with someone, we feel the need to belittle them. Remember holding a resentment is like eating the poison and hoping someone else dies. You can leave from love. You are big enough. You can be the change.
I am not saying any of this is easy. You can allow this moment to be a turning point. Know you will have all your stuff that you will take with you. Choose to go forward anyway. Practice bring awareness. And, most of all, have fun!
hi kristen first of all, thank you for following me in twitter. it’s my pleasure to write you here, want to share my story with you. just finished two books looking for agent. first one 100,000 words novel about future war in 2020, second one 55,000 words novella about my own true love searching journey for last 11 years. would you give some advice or introduce me your agent. currently seeking in webook.com. thank you very much ps. agree all ur views there is a love call let it go, when my beautiful taiwanese wife don’t love me anymore in 13 years ago, i don’t hate her but gratify that she let me go is love me so can start my new life, life is full of surprise. allow me tell you next time. see u and thanks again